Questions for Couples
Welcome to our comprehensive question list for couples, designed to spark meaningful conversations and deepen your connection.
Whether you’re newly dating, in a long-term relationship, engaged, or married, these thought-provoking questions are crafted to foster openness and understanding between partners. Relationships thrive on communication, and exploring these topics can help you learn more about each other’s values, aspirations, and perspectives on life.
- How would you like to be remembered?
- If you had to live in a state/country other than the one you live in for the rest of your life, which would you pick?
- What are the core motivations that make you work hard in your life?
- Who is the most important friend you have added to your life in the last ten years?
- How can someone earn your trust? How can someone lose your trust?
- What’s the first thing you look for in a partner or friend?
- What’s your ideal push to support ratio in a partnership?
- What makes you nervous?
- What in the home would you be okay outsourcing? What would you never consider outsourcing?
- Would you say you have a “life hero” or do you have multiple heroes?
- On a scale of 1-10, how confident are you that there is a God or higher power?
- When was the last time you were truly angry?
- What adulting thing are you embarrassed to admit you don’t fully understand?
- How did you approach dating growing up?
- In what ways are you frugal? In what ways do you have expensive taste?
- What is the most important decision you have ever made so far?
- What is the bravest thing you’ve ever done?
- Generally speaking, do you like or dislike surprises?
- What one word do you think the people who know you best would use to describe you?
- What is your favorite thing about your family culture?
- What is a dream you’ve quietly tucked away?
- What is the most trivial thing about which you have a strong opinion?
- Why did you fall in love with your first love?
- How are you at setting personal boundaries with people on a scale of 1-10?
- What causes are you most passionate about?
- Generally speaking, do you prefer an adventurous vacation or a relaxing vacation?
- Were you happy with your family size and birth order growing up?
- Describe the worst day you’ve ever experienced.
- What categories do I most push you in? Where do you want me to push you more?
- What rejection hurt you the most?
- What kinds of things tend to make you angry?
- What is the smallest thing for which you are grateful?
- What is your most controversial dating opinion?
- What do you respect most about your best friend?
- What do you think you do better than 90% of people?
- What was most different about your life one year ago?
- What’s the biggest age gap you would consider dating?
- From your perspective, how has the world changed the most in the last ten years?
- What do you dislike that everyone else seems to like? What do you like that everyone else seems to dislike?
- Who, if you had the opportunity to personally meet them, do you think would change your life the most?
- How do you like to be cared for when you’re not feeling well?
- What do people most often misunderstand or get wrong about you?
- What do you value most: flexibility, purpose, compensation, or prestige?
- Who of us takes the lead emotionally, financially, spiritually, etc?
- How hard is it for you to open up to other people?
- What is a childhood habit or preference that you’ll never outgrow?
- Ideally, how would you spend your birthday?
- What would be the worst way to die for you personally?
- What is something you’ve done / felt / seen / etc that you wish you could experience again for the first time?
- What is the luckiest thing that has happened to you? What is the unluckiest thing that has happened to you?
- What percentage of the time have you kissed on the first date?
- Are you still friends with any of your previous partners? How do you think about maintaining friendships with previous partners?
- What do you place first in your life?
- What concept do you feel like you’ll still be figuring out for the rest of your life?
- What is one thing you will never do again?
- Whose opinion do you care most about?
- What current trend do you find troubling and why?
- How active would you say you are on social media?
- What’s a book you’ve re-read multiple times?
- What celebrity event did you irrationally follow / care about the most?
- What quality are you actively trying to develop right now?
- How do you show people that you love them?
- Who is the best listener in your life? (partner excluded)
- I always appreciate the way you _______.
- What is your favorite household chore? What is your least favorite?
- If you had to pick one friend to make all your decisions for you, who would it be?
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